*This post may contain affiliate links. I receive a small percentage of an affiliate sale without any cost to you. I only link to items I truly recommend, and I thank you in advance for your support of Fire + Wife. For more information, please see my disclosure page.*
After the latest post telling more about Ryan and I; there was some feedback about wanting more of those types of posts. Looking over my stats for the website, I see that 40% of you are returning visitors and I love that! I’m excited to have you all coming back for more and hope to get to know each and every one of you as well. Please feel free to use the contact page anytime!
Ryan and I have spent half of our relationship living 1800 miles apart. Obviously, a long distance relationship is not ideal but I’m here to tell you it can work if you want it to.
If you are in a long distance relationship or possibly have to be apart from your significant other for an extended period of time, read these tips from our real life success story!
Both of you have to feel the same
If one of you is having doubts or not sure about wanting to make it work, I’m sorry to be the one to tell you.. it isn’t going to work. Make sure you are both on the same page!
Communication is key
I don’t think you need to have your phone on you at all times and check in every hour since trust is also huge in a long distance relationship but you DO need to talk/text/whatever about once a day. That’s usually how it is in a regular relationship and it’s nice to know the other person is thinking about you! Make sure to take time out of your day to do that. Set time for each other just like you would if you were going on a date.
Technology is great for long distance relationships. Now with FaceTime and Skype, it’s nice to be able to actually see your loved ones face from time to time rather than only in person every few months. With that said, don’t just text or talk online. Make sure you are having some time actually talking on the phone or on Skype. Texting is a lot different than a phone call.
Have a life of your own
Don’t just sit around wondering what your significant other is doing. Your relationship will not work if you can’t trust them. Go out and do things you love, spend time with friends, work out. Sure, you can’t go out and do these things with your significant other (right now) but that doesn’t mean you’re not able to do them at all!
Nurture trust in one another
No relationship will work without trust but it’s especially important for long distance relationships when you don’t see each other often and overthinking can get the best of you. Where are they right now? Are they really out with their friends? Are they really just at home?
You need to be able to trust in one another that you are only interested in being with each other and someday you’ll be together, side by side. Never have secrets in a relationship either, whether long distance or not, or it will break that trust. Once that trust is gone, it’s hard to get back.
It can be hard to hear about your significant other going out and doing things with new friends, picking up a new hobby, or even just doing things without you. Don’t think of it as them moving on and having fun without you, think of them filling the void while you aren’t there, just like you should be doing. Once you two are together in the same place, you will have new friends and hobbies to share with one another – just think of it as another positive!
It’s the little things
A card in the mail, unexpected flowers, a care package… let them know you are thinking about them. These little things will help you make it through to the next time you see them!
Your relationship is unique
It can be hard to hear about other couples going on double dates (or just an actual date!) or getting surprised by their significant other. You may not be able to afford to fly to see them for the holidays and you are feeling down. Don’t compare your relationship to others. Instead, think of all the good things you have in one another and how amazing it will be once you are able to be together in the same city! Just think, some people still haven’t found that special person and you are lucky that you have! The distance is worth it.. you’ll see!
Plan your next time together
While you are with them, make sure not to leave without a plan for next time. It will make saying goodbye a little easier if you know that you have a timeline for the next time you will see them. Maybe you don’t know the exact date but at least get a general idea. Save up that vacation time!
Ryan and I made it through the long distance and are now husband and wife and under one roof. You can do it too! What are some things that help you survive being in a long distance relationship?